Spicing Up Your Sex Life With New Positions

     My partner and I have been together for years and know exactly which moves will be just the right speed and angle to get the job done efficiently. While that familiarity certainly has its place and benefits, it lacks a sense of thrill or adventure. We were in a rut.
    To spice things up, we started experimenting with different sex positions. 

    Now, I’m not talking about anything too crazy. We just wanted to inject some playfulness and see what new pleasures we might uncover.

   At first, it felt awkward to change our usual pattern, but we had fun with it. a good laugh when a new twist didn’t go quite as we imagined. And when we found a pose that lit both our fireworks? Well, let’s just say it was worth the fumbles!
 

  If your routine has become, well, too routine, I highly recommend giving new positions a whirl. You never know what thrills you might uncover when you move in mysterious ways together. Here below I would like to share with you more sex positions:

 

Spooning: 

As you nestle into each other's curves, full body contact and gentle penetration provide a low-key yet pleasurable experience. Skin-to-skin intimacy radiates warmth and arousal. For those with a vulva, spooning provides g-spot stimulation which increases arousal, pleasure, and the chance of orgasm.

 My experience: 

One night, we decided to take spooning to the next level using a finger vibrator. As we lay sideways, him embracing me from behind, he teased the vibrator in at an agonizingly unhurried pace. The combination of vibrations, his hips rocking into mine and fingers circling my clitoris sent me into shudders of ecstasy within moments. After I came down from my high, we spent the rest of the night trading off giving each other multiple rounds of bliss, giggling like teenagers all the while.

Doggy Style: 

Does Doggy Style Make You Feel Like an Animal? Doggy style provides deep penetration and an exciting, primal experience. On your hands and knees, arch your back and lean into your partner as they penetrate from behind. For added pleasure, reach down and stimulate the clitoris or have your partner reach around during thrusting. Doggy style also allows for anal penetration if you and your partner enjoy that. This position can feel a bit impersonal for some, so maintain eye contact, talk dirty and caress each other.

 My experience: 

Doggy style is a position my partner and I rarely find ourselves in. For me, it feels more raw animal instinct than the emotionally intimate connection I usually crave during sex. However, on nights when we’re feeling randy and want to get a little kinky, doggy style provides a thrilling change of pace that really gets our motors humming.

My man loves taking me from behind in doggy style. The way I grip him tightly as he thrusts into me as far as humanly possible makes it a favorite on our naughty nights. I love relinquishing control, arching my back and pushing into him as our rhythm builds faster and harder.

To enhance the fun even more, we’ll sometimes use a vibrating toy to tease any other sweet spots within reach while we go at it. Feeling him pound into me from behind while the pulsing probes slide over tender skin sends tingles of pleasure through every inch of my body. 

Reverse Cowgirl: 

Want to give your partner an eyeful? The reverse cowgirl position has the receiving partner straddling the penetrating partner facing away. Sit up or lean forward and swivel your hips while your partner thrusts to find the perfect spot. Your partner will love the view of your backside and watching you ride them with abandon. This position also provides perineum pressure and stimulation which some people find highly pleasurable.

 My experience:  

To kick Reverse Cowgirl up a notch, I highly recommend adding a vibrating cock ring. Slipping the ring around the base of his shaft before climbing on board provides intense stimulation for him with vibration against my clitoris and perineum each time I grind into his lap. Between the visual of me towering over him and the doubled sensations from the ring, it never takes long for this position and toy combination to send him gasping over the edge of ecstasy. His level of excitement spurs me on to climax again and again.

Another favorite toy for Reverse Cowgirl is a bullet vibrator. With the vibe pressed against my clitoris as I ride him to oblivion, the vibrations travel through my entire pelvis creating a pleasure so intense it’s nearly tortuous. Leaving the toy in place, even the subtlest hip swivels or rotations continuously stimulate my hot spot, rapidly rocketing me into a state of breathless ecstasy and toe-curling release. Between the view my husband gets of me coming completely undone on top of him and his own climaxes from being vigorously ridden, Reverse Cowgirl with the enhancement of toys leaves us both deliciously drained and fully satisfied.

 For any woman wanting to unleash their inner seductress, I highly recommend giving Reverse Cowgirl and vibrating toys a whirl. Take to time enjoy your own body  as much as the act itself. Move slowly, put on a show and don't be afraid to be a bit theatrical. Your confidence and abandon will drive your partner wild. Forget about the destination and enjoy each shiver of sensation along the winding path of self-discovery and uninhibited play. Release expectations of how you ‘should’ look or act. Tap into your sensuality and make intimate connection the goal rather than physical outcomes. This journey is meant to be savored. So ride on, cowgirl! Your inner vixen awaits.

Edge of the Bed: 

The edge of the bed position provides deep penetration and intensity. The receiving partner lies on their back at the edge of the bed with legs spread wide or lifted into the air. The penetrating partner stands between their legs and guides themselves inside. Thrust vigorously and grasp thighs or hips for support. This angle creates tightness for the penetrating partner and direct g-spot stimulation for the receiving partner. Use pillows under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle until you find one that makes you both moan in ecstasy.

Butterfly Position:  

The Butterfly position has the receiving partner (usually us gals) lying back with hips raised while our lover kneels or stands in front. A pillow under the lower back keeps everything tilted at the perfect angle for shallow, targeted thrusting. But the real magic happens when you add clitoral stimulation.

My experience: 

Personally, I swear by using a wand vibrator. As your lover begins thrusting, press the vibrator against your clitoris and dial it up to whatever setting makes you see stars. The combination of internal and external stimulation will have you racing to the finish line in no time! To make it last, have your lover back off the thrusting for a few seconds while you also decrease the vibe intensity. Then crank it back up again. This start-stop build up results in a massive climax that will leave you trembling!

Another favorite is using a vibrating cock ring. The ring slides over your lover's shaft with a vibrating bullet that stimulates your clitoris each time they thrust forward. Meanwhile, the ring helps them stay harder for longer by constricting blood flow. 

Once in position with the plug securely teasing inside, each thrust sent shockwaves of rapture radiating through my pelvis. My partner grabbed the wand, dialing through settings from a low hum to throbbing vibrations until I cried out, every atom in my being alive with white-hot bliss. For several spans of time, nothing existed outside of the continuous waves of ecstasy crashing over me.

Just as I floated back down to earth, catching my breath in the afterglow, my partner began alternating between shallow and deep thrusts, discovering places inside that made my back arch and elicit sounds I barely recognized as my own. When I thought I couldn’t possibly take any more stimulation, my partner slipped the plug out, the increased sensitivity nearly driving me out of my mind before pushing me relentlessly into another blinding climax.

Missionary position

It is a classic for a reason. It provides intimacy through eye contact and ease of kissing, while allowing for deep penetration. However, without added stimulation it can be difficult for most women to orgasm in this position. Based on my experience as a sex writer and conversations with experts, here are some ways to rev up missionary for great sex:

Personally, I found adding clitoral stimulation through vibrators or performing oral sex before intercourse helps tremendously. My partner performing oral sex on me until I'm just about to climax, then entering me in missionary position, allows me to orgasm very quickly as he thrusts. The key is starting slow, building up arousal and delaying orgasm as long as possible for a massive climax. A sex therapist once advised me that making the woman come first helps ensure her pleasure and comfort throughout, allowing her to fully receive the man during penetration.

My experience: 

One of my personal favorites for spicing up missionary position is using a vibrating cock ring. The ring slides over the base of my partner's shaft, with a little bullet vibe that stimulates my clit each time he thrusts. The combination of vibration and his deep strokes usually has me moaning in minutes. At the same time, the snug ring helps keep him hard so he can revel in the increased sensitivity. The shared pleasure and intensity gives us some of the most mind-blowing orgasms.
For some kinky fun, you could try a little anal play in missionary. With a well-lubed finger, toy or him sliding into my ass alongside clit stimulation, the many erogenous zones being stimulated leads to unbelievably powerful orgasms. But because this adds anal penetration, go slowly, stop if it's uncomfortable and only do what you both happily consent to.
The keys to great sex here are arousal, playfulness, creativity and communication. Engage in lots of foreplay, switch things up on a whim. Drop your inhibitions and make mutual pleasure the goal. Follow your arousal - it'll guide you to discover new realms of sexy bliss together.

Switch Positions to Find Your Perfect Match: 

Different sex positions provide varying sensations, levels of intimacy, and orgasmic potential. Don't get stuck in a rut – switch positions to find your perfect match. Some positions may not provide enough clitoral stimulation for an orgasm while others create too much intensity. Mixing up positions throughout sex play helps you discover new pleasure zones and angles that drive you wild while also keeping things exciting with your partner.

Communicate to Enhance Your Experience: Trying new sex positions is a journey of discovery for both partners. Talk to each other about what feels pleasurable and adjust speed, depth or angle to enhance the experience. Let your partner know if a position isn't working for you and try another. Guide their hands to where you want to be touched. Ask for oral sex or clitoral stimulation if needed. Speak up about your desires and work together to achieve maximum pleasure.

 

• Go slow and focus on intimacy. New positions can feel awkward at first. Take time to relax into each other.

• Start with basic positions like cowgirl or spooning before moving into more advanced options.

• Use lubricant, especially for positions allowing deep penetration.

• Trial and error. Not every position works for every couple. Find options that you both thoroughly enjoy.

• Have fun with it! Laugh with your partner if a position doesn't go as planned. Playfulness leads to better sex.

• Revisit your old faithful positions. Trying new options is exciting but stick with positions you know provide reliable pleasure.

• The more you practice, the more comfortable and pleasurable each position will become.

 

 

Q & A

1. Can sex positions cause bleeding?

Some sex positions can potentially cause light bleeding or spotting. Positions that allow for deep penetration, like doggy style or legs on shoulders, can irritate the cervix which may lead to temporary bleeding. Rough, vigorous sex or sex without enough lubrication may also cause small tears in the vagina that lead to postcoital bleeding. However, bleeding after sex can also indicate an underlying condition like cervical inflammation, uterine fibroids or endometriosis, especially if it's heavy or persists. If you experience persistent or heavy bleeding after sex, consult your doctor.

 

2. Can sex positions cause waist pain?

Intercourse requires pelvic movement and thrusting which can sometimes lead to waist or lower back discomfort, especially when using positions that provide deep penetration. Some positions, like missionary with legs on shoulders or kneeling rear-entry position, require flexibility and place extra stress on the waist and hips which may exacerbate pain. Positions where the receiving partner is on top generally provide more control and comfort. To prevent pain, maintain a steady rhythm, change positions often, use proper lubrication and support your body to avoid muscle strain. See a doctor if pain is chronic or intense.

 

3. Can sex positions cause urinary tract infections?

Some sex positions may increase the risk of urinary tract infections (UTIs) in women. Positions where the urethra is more exposed, such as reverse cowgirl or legs on shoulders, make it easier for bacteria to enter the urinary tract. Vaginal intercourse also pushes bacteria further into the urethra. However, UTIs are usually caused by other factors like wiping from back to front, delayed urination after sex or having sex without urinating first. To lower UTI risk, urinate before and after sex, wipe properly, drink plenty of water and consider taking probiotics. See a doctor if UTI symptoms appear like frequent or painful urination, back pain or fever.

 

4. Will you reach orgasm too quickly?

 For some people, certain sex positions increase excitement more rapidly which can lead to early orgasm, especially for those with a penis. Positions providing intense sensation like cowgirl where the receiving partner grinds and rubs, or doggy style where thrusting is deep and vigorous, may elicit orgasm sooner. If you find yourself climaxing more quickly than you would like in these positions, switch to a less stimulating position when you feel close to orgasm. Taking breaks to avoid constant stimulation can also help prolong lovemaking. Don't be afraid to communicate with your partner if you need them to slow down or change positions.

5. Can sex positions determine gender?

There is no scientific evidence that the sex positions used during conception will determine the gender of the baby. The belief that deep penetration positions, like rear-entry or doggy style, will produce boys while shallow penetration positions, like missionary, will produce girls is a myth. A baby's gender is determined at conception based on whether the sperm cell containing an X or Y chromosome fertilizes the egg. There are many myths about methods to influence gender before

 conception, but none have proven biologically valid. Gender outcome cannot be reliably influenced by any natural means. The gender of a baby comes down to chance based on the chromosomal makeup of the sperm that fertilizes the egg.